Not a Medscape Member. I feel like I make a lot of sacrifices to see him and try to make it as convenient as possible for him, which means planning ahead and changing my schedule around sometimes. I'll definitely talk with her about my concerns, and will be spending time with her family over the upcoming holidays so that will be a good chance to see how they treat me. Found this blog just now after searching "married to a surgeon". I married a non-member over 20 years ago. When mormon married a mormon and failed miserably. When you come home do you just want to be alone.
When my nomo husband does go to church we discuss the talks. All I can do is Trust in God. Is he aware that if your children are faithful members of the church they might end of marrying in the temple and he would not be allowed to attend the ceremony. He was funny, family-oriented, obviously very smart, etc. That's what good wives do, right. And they manage to get the time for it. Dont aggressively try to destroy her faith but bring up philosophical thinking points.
Thanks for the help. What do you occupy your time with. Hell we haven't even gone in a date yet. There may be underlying personality similarities, but if the answer to "what shall I do next" is always trumped by a Morman frame of reference for one partner, but not the other, conflict is inevitable. Expect her to either write you off during her mission or pressure you to show interest in the church. I would never convert. Sorry if I gave that impression. Maybe things would be have different if I had been older or if I had not been so fragile.
Pants-to-Church Sunday left me a bit bruised. Can I add to this extremely old thread. Read our Exit Stories from Mormonism. I am hopeful and do feel some healing. If you can't do that, realizing that your partner may never come around to your side of things, you are not ready to marry this person. It's satire, but this is all stuff you may hear at Thanksgiving dinner. I am engaged to marry a surgeon next fall. But it would not change my love for that person. Your mids is still young. I went to BYU.